\t\t\t\tThanks to Jennifer Gunsaullus, PhD for her talk about “Exploring the 5 C’s of Intimacy.” \u00a0I’ll do my best to transcribe my notes in this blog. \u00a0You can always contact Dr. Jenn to setup an appointment at 858-880-5944. \u00a0She charges $75 per hour.<\/p>\n
Here goes …<\/p>\n
What is intimacy? \u00a0Dr. Jenn likes to say “Into Me You See.”<\/p>\n
First C: \u00a0Care. \u00a0Feeling good about yourself can add to intimacy so self-care is important. \u00a0Tips: 1) Give satisfaction to yourself by using meditative masturbation or erotica. 2) Take time for yourself every week. \u00a03) Keep a personal private journal.<\/p>\n
Second C: \u00a0Communication. \u00a0Willingness to be vulnerable opens up communication lines. \u00a0Use Compassionate communication. \u00a0 1)Both agree that this is a safe place. \u00a02)State facts on the situation and agree on the facts. \u00a03) “This is how I felt…” \u00a0Use “I” and feeling words. \u00a04) This is what it meant to me. \u00a0Use “me.” \u00a05) Negotiation. \u00a0“Next time we can try this …” \u00a0Tip: \u00a0Write it down.<\/p>\n
Third C: Contentment. \u00a0Bring in\u00a0positiveness\u00a0and put a smile on your face. \u00a0Be mindful without judgment. \u00a0Tips: 1)End your day writing down 3-5 things you appreciated that day. \u00a0(3 gratitudes) 2) Write down 15-20\u00a0strengths\u00a0of your partner and share with each other. 3) Stoplight exercise – take a few breaths and use the few seconds as a gift of mindfullness.<\/p>\n
Fourth C: \u00a0Confidence. \u00a0Be comfortable in your own skin. \u00a0Tips: \u00a01) Be mindful around\u00a0criticizing\u00a0other women or criticizing yourself. 2)Try an archtype. \u00a0Think of a women\/celebrity that you admire and adopt her qualities for yourself.<\/p>\n
Fifth C: \u00a0Creativity. \u00a0Think outside the box. \u00a0Find your boundaries then gently nudge your boundaries. \u00a0Start with your five senses. \u00a0Tip: Intimacy Night – bring in your five senses. \u00a0Feel silly with your partner.<\/p>\n
Dr Jenn’s booklist:<\/p>\n
Beautiful You: A Daily Guide to Radical Self Acceptance<\/span> by \u00a0Rosie Molinary<\/p>\n Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work <\/span> by John Gottman<\/p>\n Five Love Languages<\/span> by Gary Chapman<\/p>\n Mating in Captivity <\/span>by Esther Perel<\/p>\n I Love Female Orgasm <\/span>by Dorian Solot and Marshall Miller<\/p>\n Urban Tantra<\/span> by Barbara Carrellas<\/p>\n Calling In the One<\/span> by Katherine Woodward Thomas\t\t<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Thanks to Jennifer Gunsaullus, PhD for her talk about “Exploring the 5 C’s of Intimacy.” \u00a0I’ll do my best to…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[3],"tags":[32,40,44],"class_list":["post-66","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-ggg","tag-global-gals","tag-gunsaullus","tag-jennifer-gunsaullus"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/global-gals.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/66","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/global-gals.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/global-gals.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/global-gals.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/global-gals.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=66"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"http:\/\/global-gals.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/66\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/global-gals.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=66"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/global-gals.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=66"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/global-gals.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=66"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}